Personally, I am pretty uncomfortable talking to people about death. Many times when the subject comes up I feel inclined to steer the conversation in a different direction as to not have to see someone else get upset, or get upset myself. It's possible that your hubby was feeling the rise in emotion during the conversation and attempted to come up with a proactive solution. It may not have been what you wanted to hear, but to him, you getting out of the house and getting a job may have been something he thought would cheer you up.
In my experience with my own partner, I've found that you have to make things very clear. Perhaps one mention of seeking counseling wasn't enough, and it was easy for your husband to just shrug it off in passing. I think you should sit him down and talk to him about this again. Tell him that you felt like he didn't really listen the first time, and that you were serious about getting some help for this. I bet if you do this in the right time/environment, he will listen.
I'm really sorry about you losing your dad. *hug*