That is very important to have that me time for yourself, you don't know how delicious that is to do what you want for a change. So you have to make that time and don't let anyone spoil it for you. Tell them this is the time you want to be alone and by yourself to pull it together and they will understand.
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misumaru15
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You can't do anything for anyone else if you are not right. As moms we often are the least selfish when it comes to us. We will sacrifice ourselves and sanity for other family members.
That is the truth, because we have always been the can do it all kind of person. They do not understand that we are human also and need a break. They be steady trying to pile it on and not even give us a second thought. So we ladies have to lay down the law for ourselves and let them know or demand a day or night for ourself or just take it and say I'll be back later. As I do, call me if you need me, otherwise I will see you later.
FirstBaby2011
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My "me time" usually takes place early in the morning while my husband is getting ready for work and my toddler is still sleeping. Around 5 a.m. I take about an hour or two to scour the Internet, work on a sewing project, or sit in silence with a hot cup of tea and a novel. This is the best schedule that I have come up with while having a busy toddler and a husband who is working two jobs and taking a full course load.
. If you won't be happy nobody who loves you won't be happy either, because they'll worry for you. So I have no qualms. Every morning I sit with my book and a cup of delicious tea and I relax.
Beth23
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I have to admit I don't get the "me time" thing. If your doing something you enjoy then all of your time is me time whether your at work, doing errands or taking care of the kids. Make all your time fun and enjoyable and you have all the me time in the world.
When my kids were little I would workout 30 minutes in the morning. They would get up and most days workout with me. Watching a 3 year old do aerobics is a hoot. I love to hike in nature and I would take the kids along. I love my job and would work there whether I need money or not. I even look forward to my commute because I play all my favorite CDS or listen to podcasts.
Its more about how you look at what your doing with your time. For instance when most people are stuck in traffic they get stressed. I am siked though because it gives me more time to listen to my music and podcasts.
If the kids were getting under my feet while I was making dinner I would give them a task to do to help. I remember my son would love to shake the meat in the shake and bake bag. He would jump around the kitchen and wiggle his butt, it was so cute. These are the times I remember now not the bath I took or the 15 minutes of meditation.
I do know its hard with small kids but they need quiet me time alone to and if I needed to meditate or take a bath thats when I would do it. Just try to make more or the things you do enjoyable and fun.
When my kids were little I would workout 30 minutes in the morning. They would get up and most days workout with me. Watching a 3 year old do aerobics is a hoot. I love to hike in nature and I would take the kids along. I love my job and would work there whether I need money or not. I even look forward to my commute because I play all my favorite CDS or listen to podcasts.
Its more about how you look at what your doing with your time. For instance when most people are stuck in traffic they get stressed. I am siked though because it gives me more time to listen to my music and podcasts.
If the kids were getting under my feet while I was making dinner I would give them a task to do to help. I remember my son would love to shake the meat in the shake and bake bag. He would jump around the kitchen and wiggle his butt, it was so cute. These are the times I remember now not the bath I took or the 15 minutes of meditation.
I do know its hard with small kids but they need quiet me time alone to and if I needed to meditate or take a bath thats when I would do it. Just try to make more or the things you do enjoyable and fun.
difrancprod
Member
I set aside my weekends to have a personal time. I hang out with my friends on Saturdays and sometimes go to my family on Sundays or think of just traveling for one day to be out of the city or the monotony of my routine. It's very refreshing and healthy for me that way.
sandooch
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Well, I'm a homemaker and even though my girls are 21 and 18 and don't need me to tend to there needs any more, I still don't make the time to do good things for myself. I should now more than ever because I've been stressing about our financial situation lately. I need to get back into my exercise and facial massage routine at least.
shaunche
Member
You should have more free time to do what you want to do now your girls are old enough to fend for themselves. Some parents enjoy the free time and others feel lonely when their children leave the nest and venture into adulthood. Having a positive outlook is important, as always.
Melissast
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I don't have any me time. When my daughter is at school I'm cleaning the house or doing odd jobs to help earn us a bit more money. WhenShe us here I'm playing with her. It will be even harderto find time for myself in November when I have my other baby. I keep thinking that when both kids go to school I'll have some me time then, but I'll probbaly come up with reasons not to. For some reason spending any time for myself feels a bit selfish to me, but I understand the needf or it. If I took some time, I probbaly would be less stressed.
jovan107
Member
I set aside the weekends for myself. I normally the person who everyone in my family comes to if they needed help with anything and a year ago I suffered a breakdown. Before I never had anytime for myself and it took having a breakdown for me to realize the importance of having ME time.