There are happy moments in relationships such as when people decide to make it official, when the get engaged, when they are having a baby, or when they are on their anniversary. Unfortunate, unwanted issues can begin to creep up in relationships when you least expect them. These can include jealousy, anger, and miscommunication. Oftentimes, it is actually when people start to get closest to each other that they start to encounter these types of issues. Some of the most common ones are controlling behavior, a lack of a sense of humor, becoming over sensitive, and feeling over protective or uncaring. It can also lead to feelings of being trapped, insecure, and worried. The sex might begin to lose its luster, and unhealthy coping mechanisms can begin to take over.
Unfortunately, it is often just at the moment when a relationship stops being flirtatious and starts getting serious that insecurity begins causing these types of problems. Damage from previous relationships might be a factor. Trust can become difficult as a result. No matter how illogical the behaviors are, they seem impossible to control.
Inevitably, there are often subconscious reasons that this begins to happen. They could be behaviors learned from your family. Oftentimes we look for a partner that, to some extent, replaced our mother or father. Other times, we may project our parent’s faults onto our lovers. If a father was violent, it may be difficult for a woman to trust men. If a mother was too critical, a man might feel like his wife is always nagging on him. Family patterns can repeat for many generations.
Thankfully, this baggage does not have to follow us for the rest of our lives. Beliefs that are hindering what would otherwise be a happy relationship can be restructured and replaced with more positive beliefs. Lasting, comfortable, healthy relationships can be forged.
There are many ways to move forward and work on these types of issues. On of the most important things is communication. Each partner needs to understand the other one’s feelings in order to respect them. You can also become more aware of your behaviors and when they are irrational and damaging, allowing you to alter your behavior before it begins to spiral out of control. These are all useful strategies that should be encouraged.
There are also methods that work on a much deeper level, however. To fix your problems at the root, it is important to remove the emotional triggers that cause the behaviors in the first place. Building acceptance is on of the most important factors. Acceptance makes it possible to communicate naturally, without trying to hide anything.
Hypnotherapy is excellent for dealing with these types of issues because it works on the subconscious level. Most of the issues that cause trouble in relationships are not undertaken on a conscious level. The subconscious mind governs most of human behavior. The conscious mind is only used when making decisions and adapting to new situations. The subconscious mind is in charge of behaviors that have already been learned. For this reason, a conscious understanding of what needs to change doesn’t cause us to change our behavior, because the subconscious mind hasn’t made any changes. Hypnotherapy sends messages directly to the subconscious mind, making it possible to alter our behavior in a manner that otherwise would not be possible.